Since we were kids we have had probably too many examples of what love truly is; what it should look like, feel like and how you should know when it’s real. If you’re anything like me, it started with Disney movies and then Disney sitcoms with characters like Raven and Devon. My true fascination with love came from movies that had a little faultiness in it as well; Love Jones, Poetic Justice, Love & Basketball and Boomerang to name a few. I grew up and eventually shook off the idea that anything I see on TV pertaining to love was just TV and would never work like that. Then I watched “Love Is___”.
Love Is___ is a show derived from the life of the amazing writer Mara Brok Akil and her husband Salim Akil. Before I dug deep into the premise of the show, I was intrigued by the main character Nuri in the preview. She made a statement about what she had accomplished and how she didn’t feel bad that she required a man to match her “fly”. A small “mhmm, facts” left my lips. I soon found out that relating to her would soon make me think twice about my own personal list.
Nuri and Yasir are writers in Los Angeles. Initially meeting on whim, they both had no idea what the future had in store for them. A year after their initial introduction, they meet again and they soon, and I do mean SOON, fall in love. This is where the show starts to truly capture your attention.
Yasir is a man that by society’s standards, we as women would call him a bum. He has no job, a car on its last leg and no place to call his own. Yasir’s passion, confidence and humility is what captures I think both the audience and Nuri. Nuri is a woman who is working hard and who has accomplished a lot in her life and still pretty young. Her own car, own home and career that she loves, in most ways, people would call her perfect. Her taste in men as well as her expectations are what some may call shallow. Her desire for genuine connection, and love is why she was drawn to Yasir’s approach and demeanor before she was able to realize he had nothing of what she expected out of a man.
What I love about them together is that they are both fighting their own insecurities but at the same time building each other up and introducing each other to new things at the same time. They are both being challenged in new ways and being forced to face their own issues but also trust each other. Yasir has never been with a woman with so much success and Nuri has never been with a man with so much knowledge. They both possess something that the other lacks and that’s why it’s crazy from the modern day viewer to believe it would work.
It is so easy for us to dismiss someone because they don’t meet even 4 out of the 5 requirements on our list. But should we feel bad for that? We hear all the time, “don’t block your blessing” but in the same breath we are told, “You can’t get wasted time back”. So which phrase is more important? We chase this idea, this dream of love around but do we really want to make the sacrifices, take the chances, the leaps of faith? Are we capable of embarking on a journey like Nuri and Yasir or should we stick to our guns because no one knows us like we know us? It’s a coin toss. If someone tells you they don’t want a magical love story, in my opinion, they are lying. It’s human nature to want to feel a particular type of love from a person. If that weren’t true, there wouldn’t be a name for it. How we get that love, how we recognize that love is real, is completely up to us and based on the chances we take and choices we make.